I worked from home the other day because my little guy was sick. Working and children do not always mix well and often times I find myself resorting to putting on Netflix.
My son is any only child and often relies on myself and my husband for stimulus, which we are more than happy to accommodate. That said there are also times I feel it’s important for him to gain the confidence to be more independent.
My son is a very creative and imaginative soul… some say an actor in the making. Since we were house bound the other day and mummy had to work we made the best with what we had.
We took out the legos! My sons first instinct was to call on me to build him a truck. I thought could do one of two things. First go to him and do what he asked and make one for him OR Instead, encouraged him to do it on his own. Through a discussion of what we could use to help us construct this trick, he looked around his playroom and saw that he had many options for inspiration. Some time later he came over to me proud of the truck he constructed on his own, by using one of his toy trucks as a guide.
Its amazing what can happen when you just let them go, when you allow their imaginations and minds explore freely without our parental interruptions. Sometimes a little encouragement is all they need.
I love spending time with my son, I love playing and creating with him… but I also love watching what he is capable of doing and accomplishing on his own.
Don’t be so quick to jump in, our instinct as parents is to just help, get things over with because we have 2o million other things to get done.
DON’T! Fight the urge. They will gain so much from the opportunity to explore and inquire on their own. children learn from doing not from being told what to do.
Be patient, be a co-learner and allow yourself to leave the stresses of adult life and be in the moment with your child(den).
You will not regret the household chores done going unfinished, as much as you will regret not taking the time to slow down, be in the moment and truly interact and observe your child.
You will learn so much more about them and yourself when you do!